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The Sex Code --- Version 1.3
Introduction
The Sex Code is yet another signature code, modeled after the Geek Code, and using elements from that, the Whore Code, and the
Other Sex
Code, which is much smaller than this but was there first.
The Sex Code isn't so much about your identifying features (you can use
the Geek Code, Whore Code or Pearce
Code for that type of information, although I'll add it if people bug me
enough). Its main purpose is to encode the type of sex you like, how
much you like it, and how often. It's very much a Your Kink Is OK code, so
I've tried to include as many different things as reasonable, although I've
stayed shy of illegal/non-consensual stuff. Feel free to send me new
ideas.
Instructions For Use
The Sex Code is broken down into a large number of categories of two
basic types: miscellaneous categories and preference categories. In both
cases, your code for that category will consist of a letter, possibly with
modifiers before or after it, and a number of plus and/or minus signs (this
number could be zero). The letters are case sensitive, that is, lower case
and upper case are not the same thing.
The miscellaneous categories occasionally have
special rules, and they each tell you how to use the plus and minus signs
for that category (if applicable); the preference categories all work the
same way, described below.
When you have gone through the code and selected your choices for each
category (feel free to ignore some that don't interest you or you have no
opinion on or whatever), string all these codes together with spaces between
them. This is your Sex Code. You may want to put it in your signature
and/or on your web page.
Note: You put your codes together in the order the
categories appear, even if you skip some: it makes it much easier for
someone else to decode.
Example Sex Code
SPoSlSi/Bi/MaEr A22 W--:++ !H w+ h+ D++ P43 E+++
a++ Ag++ ?Ar+ ?b+ cg+++ C++++ ?Co+ d+ ?Di e fr+++ ?fg+++ ?Fg-r ?Fi- ?g++ i
?I- k+++ m+++ ?n+ p+ P(+) ?r++ ?s++ S+++ ?Sc--- ?Sw++ ?t+ wa++ ?Wa--
The meaning of the above code gives
you an idea of the type of information that can be encoded in a very short
space with this code. This is my code, by the way.
Global Modifiers
Prefixes
These modifiers are placed before the letter for the
category.
- @
- This indicates that your place in this category varies
all over the place depending on when you're asked or who asks you or
whatever. If you put + or - signs, the number only indicates the
answer you are usually closest to, your 'home base' so to
speak.
- $
- This indicates you get paid for your participation in
this category. If you ever use this on the Sex Code, you may find
yourself getting a lot of envy!
- !
- This indicates you refuse to participate in this
category. No + or - signs should be used in this case.
- ?
- This indicates you haven't done whatever the category
refers to. The number of + or - signs used indicates where you think
you'd be if you tried it.
- ~
- This indicates the value given is approximately correct
and you can't or won't clarify further.
Other Modifiers
- >
- This modifier is placed between two sets of + or - signs,
indicating that the one on the left is current but you'd like to be
the one on the right.
- <
- This modifier is placed between two sets of + or - signs,
indicating that the one on the right is current and you used to be
the one on the left.
- :
- This modifier is placed between two sets of + or - signs,
indicating that your responses in this category range from the value
on the left to the value on the right.
- ()
- Parentheses are put around a set of + or - signs
indicating that this is an alternate value, i.e. you are sometimes
the value outside the parentheses, and sometimes the one inside the
parentheses, but you never move through the values in the
middle.
Extended Modifiers
Extended modifiers are used to specify that a range applies only
under a particular circumstance. Extended modifiers go with the
rest of the + or - signs, and are of the form #[letters]{[signs]},
where [signs] is a number of plus or minus signs, as usual, and
[letters] is an extended modifier code from the list below.
Extended modifiers indicate that that pariticular group of signs
applies only with the specified type of person or in the specified
situation. Example: W#F{-}#M{++} means I like my women a bit skinny
and my men kinda chubby. Extended modifiers may hold other +/-
string modifiers inside the curly brackets.
- m
- Males
- f
- Females
- t
- Transgendered
- d
- When drunk
- s
- When stoned
There needs to be more modifiers here, but I'm stuck for right
now.
Example Modifier Usage
These examples use the A (age) code and the W (partner's weight)
codes.
- @W+
- I can enjoy partners of all different weights, but
prefer them slightly on the plump side as often as not.
- $W----
- Severe anorexics pay me to have sex with
them.
- !W
- I refuse to judge people on the basis of weight.
- ?W+
- I've never judged anyone based on their weight,
but if I did I'd probably like them a little plump.
- ~A20
- I'm approximately 20 years old, and you're not getting
any more out of me than that!
- A20>21
- I'm 20, and hope to make it to 21.
- A20<21
- I'm 21, but, like, I used to be 20 (giggle)!!
- W-(++++)
- I generally like my partners a little on the skinny
side, but occasionally (or in some particular circumstance) I like
clinically obese people.
Miscellaneous Categories
General Information
Start with a capital S, then place all the two letter codes that apply
after it from the lists below. Each seperate list should be seperated by a
/.
Relationship Style and Status
- Mo
- I am monogamous, as in I will not have sex outside of a
committed relationship with exaclty one other partner.
- Po
- I am polygamous/polyamorous, meaning I prefer to have
relationships with more than one person at a time, or at least to
have this option open. Meaning of 'relationship' left intentionally
vague.
- Va
- I prefer neither of the above, whatever happens,
happens.
- Sl
- I'm a slut, that is I prefer to have relationships where
there is friendship and sexual involvement just that way, without
the foolishness of romantic love. My life is my own, and I like
that.
- Si
- I am currently single.
- Ma
- I am currently married to one or more people. Note that
whatever you think of as married counts.
- Di
- I have been divorced one or more times in the past.
- Wi
- I have had one or more people die on me while we were
married (i.e. I am or have been a widow).
Sexual Preference
- St
- I'm straight, I prefer to have sex with members of the
opposite sex.
- Bi
- I'm bisexual, I have sex with members of either sex.
- Ga
- I'm gay, I prefer to have sex with members of the same
sex.
Ethnicity and Gender
- Ma
- I'm male (i.e. I currently have male genitalia).
- Fe
- I'm female (i.e. I currently have female genitalia).
- Pr
- I'm a pre-op transgendered. This should be given with
another gender code which indicates the gender your operation will
move you towards should you go through with it.
- Tr
- I'm a post-op transgendered. This should be given with
another gender code with indicated the current state of your
genitalia.
- Tg
- I'm transgendered, but non-operative and planning on
staying that way. This should be given with another gender code for
the gender you act as, and assumes that that gender does
not reflect the state of your genitalia.
- Er
- I'm European.
- Af
- I'm African.
- Na
- I'm Native American.
- Or
- I'm Oriental.
Example General Information Code
My code here is SPoSlSi/Bi/MaEr. The meaning is I'm a single polyslut
who is bisexual, male and european.
Age
Start with a capital A, then place your age (or one of the modifiers if
you don't want to tell).
Body Partner Types Preffered
Weight
How heavy do you like 'em? Note that this specifically refers to body
fat, although really skinny values imply lack of musculature as well.
The letter used here is W.
- W
- I like pretty average people.
- W+
- I like my partners a little on the chubby side.
- W++
- I like my partners rather fat.
- W+++
- I like my partners really huge.
- W++++
- If you can't get out of bed, don't worry, I'll come to
you!
- W-
- I like my partners somewhat skinny.
- W--
- I like to be able to see ribs.
- W---
- I like to be able to count all the bones in my partners
body --- with their clothes on.
- W----
- I also dabble in necrophilia, because my partners keep
starving to death on me.
Height
How tall do you like 'em? Note that this value should take male/female
differences into account. The letter used here is H.
- H
- I like people of average height.
- H+
- I like people who are somewhat tall.
- H++
- I like rather tall people.
- H+++
- I like 'em huge.
- H++++
- Non basketball players need not apply.
- H-
- I like people who are a bit on the short side.
- H--
- I like people who are rather short.
- H---
- I like people who are vertically challenged.
- H----
- I like dwarfs.
Own Body Type
This is done just like the two above, but with the letters w and h
respectively. Remember the code is case sensitive!
Sex Drive
This measures how often you like sex. Use a D for this category. This
value should represent the least often you could have sex over a long period
of time and not get disgruntled, assuming it was available, in other words
the smallest amount of sex you'd be happy with. A good way to measure this
is, if I was in a relationship with someone for a long time, and for the
last sixth months we've been having X amount of sex, would I complain?, and
use the smallest answer for which the answer to that question is no.
- D
- I like it once a week.
- D+
- I like it twice a week.
- D++
- I like it once every two days.
- D+++
- I like it once a day.
- D++++
- I'm always ready!
- D-
- I like it twice a month.
- D--
- I like it once a month.
- D---
- I like it once every few months.
- D----
- I'm just not interested much at all in sex. Why I'm
writing a sex code for myself I have no idea.
Experimentation
This measure how likely you are to try new things when the opportunity
comes up. The letter used here is E.
- E
- I do try new things. Sometimes. Really!
- E+
- I'm rather open.
- E++
- I try to try something new ofen. Not much squicks
me.
- E+++
- I like to try something new whenever I can. I'll try
anything once (or twice).
- E++++
- I actively seek out new experiences constantly, to the
frequent annoyance of my partners as I get bored quickly.
- E-
- I've tried new things, but that's in the past.
- E--
- New things are what being a teenager is for.
- E---
- New things are what being a child is for.
- E----
- People tell me I must have tried something new or I
would never have learned to walk, but I don't believe them.
Purity
For this, use a P and put your Purity Test Score after it. That
would be your purity percentage, i.e. the total number of questions
divided by your number of No answers, times 100. I recommend you use
the 500 Point Omnisexual
Purity Test for consitency with other Sex Code users. If using the
500 point version, your P number is your number of No answers divided by
5. If you don't know what I'm talking about, go to The Armory List of Purity
Tests.
Complete General Information Example
Again, this is from my own code: SPoSlSi/Bi/MaEr A22 W--:++ !H w+ h+ D++
P43 E+++. The
meaning of the first part was already given, the rest is that my age is 22,
I like people in the healthy range of weights (from rather skinny to rather
fat), I don't much care about
people's height, and I myself and a bit chubby and tall. My minimum comfort
level for sexual activity is once every two days (assuming I can get some!),
I'm only 43% pure, and I'll try anything a few times.
Preference Categories
Preference Scores
The following is the meanings of + or - groupings when used in the
Preferences section.
-
- I have no real opinion on this activity. I can take it or
leave it, and whether I participate in it or not depends on how much
my partner(s) like(s) it.
- +
- I enjoy this activity, and will participate in it if the
opportunity comes up.
- ++
- I really love this activity, and will get annoyed if I
can't participate in it for a long period of time.
- +++
- This activity is sufficiently important to me as to end
relationships with partners who don't like it. Almost every sexual
encounter I have includes this activity.
- ++++
- I have a clinical dependence on this activity: I cannot
become aroused unless it (or possible some other activity I'm
dependent on) is involved in the sexual session at hand.
- +++++
- Why yes, I am in therapy. Why do you
ask?
- -
- I don't much like this activity, but I don't mind
participating in it if I'm with someone who likes it.
- --
- I hate this activity, and would only participate in it if
someone I cared (or lusted after) a lot begged me at length to do
it.
- ---
- I really hate this activity, and will not participate in
it, ever.
- ----
- I have a clinical phobia of this activity. Don't even
discuss it around me, please.
- -----
- I turn into a raging axe murder when this activity is
mentioned, and I'm also in therapy, why do you ask?
Also, you can specify different things for the giving and recieving end
of the category in question, assuming your opinions on the two are
different. To do this, put 'g' or 'r' after the letter and before the
+ or - signs. To specify both, but the letter, then g, some - or + signs,
r, then some more - or + signs. Modifiers that go after the letter can be
used seperately in the g and r sections. Let's say the code is X. If you
really like having someone do
X to you, but hate doing it to others, you would put Xg--r+++. On the
other hand, if you're rather indifferent to going X to someone else but
dislike having it done to you, you would use Xgr-.
The Actual Categories
This is the good stuff. The moment you've all been waiting for. Each
category is described briefly, use the Preference Scores section to
construct the actual codes. Ordering is alphabetical, lower case first.
Some of the codes are two letters, due to conflicts with other codes. Note
to self: g and r are never used as second letters due to possible
confusion.
For those codes where giving and receiving don't have the usual meaning
(Co and Cd come to mind immediately, and r seems to count as well), giving
means you like (or dislike) performing the activity, receiving means you
like (or dislike) dealing with/having sexual interactions with people who
perform the activity (i.e. Cdg++ means crossdressers turn you on).
Just as a note, I use rather more polite language here than I'm normally
accustomed to. The reason is I don't want this page blocked by porn blockers
if I can possibly help it.
- a
- Anilingus, or rimming: licking someone's anus.
- A
- Anal Sex, dildoes can count.
- b
- Bondage: being tied up.
- B
- Bestiality: look it up.
- Bs
- Branding & Scarring: +/- can reflect how many you have
as well as enjoyment of getting them.
- c
- Cunnilingus: licking vaginas.
- C
- Cuddling: hugging, spooning, being sweet.
- Cd
- Cross-dressing: Dressing up as a member of the opposite
gender to whatever you normally act as. This provides for
interesting interactions with Tg...
- Co
- Costumes: I like dressing up.
- d
- Dildoes: artificial penises.
- Di
- Discipline: spanking and like that.
- e
- Eating: using edible things (chocolate sauce, edible
undies, etc.) in a sexual context.
- f
- Fellatio: sucking on penises.
- F
- Foot Fetish: likes little toesy woseys.
- Fi
- Fisting: like m, but bigger...
- g
- Group Sex: more than two.
- i
- Intercourse: penis-in-vagina type stuff.
- I
- Infantilism: Mmmm... Diapers...
- k
- Kissing: nothing special here, move along.
- m
- Mutual masturbation: manual stimulation of a partner's
genitals.
- Ma
- Massage, as an erotic experience.
- Me
- Meta: place a word after the Me to indicate things not
included on this list (i.e. MePteraphilia++ to indicate your
interest in Pteraphilia (don't ask)).
- n
- Net Sex: typing to turn someone on.
- p
- Phone Sex: talking to someone erotically on the phone.
- P
- Pain Play: make it hurt so good...
- Pi
- Piercings: weird attachments... Number of ++++s if you
have piercings should indicate how many/weird they are.
- r
- Role Playing: doctor, nurse, mommy, daddy, maid,...
- s
- Submission: giving someone your all. Note that Domination
is just sr.
- S
- Safe Sex: uses condoms and like that.
- Sc
- Scatology: look it up, I ain't telling you.
- Sw
- Swinging: switch your partner round and round...
- t
- Toys, other than dildoes.
- T
- Tantra: sacred sexuality of whatever kind (Tantra, Taoist,
Western Sex Magick, Pagan Ritual Sex, etc.).
- wa
- Watching: covers both exhibitionism and voyeurism.
- Wa
- Watersports: likes urine.
Conclusion
I hope you've had fun filling out your Sex Code. You can put it in your
signature or on your web page, and I recommend (stole this from the Geek
Code author) that you put it in a Sex Code Block, like below:
-----BEGIN SEX CODE BLOCK-----
Version: 1.2
SPoSlSi/Bi/MaEr A22 W--:++ !H w+ h+ D++ P43 E+++
a++ Ag++ ?Ar+ ?b+ cg+++ C++++ ?Cd++ ?Co+ d+ ?Di e fr+++ ?fg+++ ?Fg-r ?Fi- ?g++
i ?I- k+++ m+++ ?n+ p+ P(+) ?r++ ?s++ S+++ ?Sc--- ?Sw++ ?t+ ?T++ wa++ ?Wa--
------END SEX CODE BLOCK------
Above all, play safe and have fun!
What's New
In 1.3
Thanks to trinnsf@yahoo.com (Leigh Ann) for the idea that led to
Extended Modifiers.
In 1.2
Thanks to awhamilt@csclub.uwaterloo.ca (Drew Hamilton) for the
idea of a meta tag (Me).
Thanks to Shannon Mann for the mention of massage
(Ma). Doh!
In 1.1
Thanks to Sabrin1315@aol.com for pointing out lacks of crossdressing
codes and making suggestions on that and sacred sex. As a result, added Tg
gender code, Cd and T preference codes, and the paragraph on giving and
receiving in codes where that doesn't really apply. She also mentioned
piercings, which make for a nice exception (I don't like exceptions!), and I
added Branding and Scarring.